Ho Oponopono

I love you, please forgive me, I am sorry, thank you

HO'OPONOPONO BY Dr Ihaleakala Hew Len

Ancient Hawaiians developed a practice known as Ho'oponopono and in Hawaiian that means to bring back to rightness, harmony. This is a great tool to lessen negative energy between two people, or to heal other people. You can even use this on situations and inanimate objects such as cars or work problems.

Hawaiians believe every time we interact with another person we are connected to that person by a cord of energy from our solar plexus to their solar plexus -- the place where ribs meet in front of the mid-body. We are going to clean that energy now. Here is one way to do that. Get real relaxed and then lie down somewhere warm and comfortable, now imagine yourself Very, Very Light, so light in fact that you begin to rise up, light as a feather and float up gently into the clouds. Once in the clouds, see how free you are of earthly cares. Now imagine a stage below you and on that stage the person who you are angry with or with whom you want to heal or clear negative energy. Notice their appearance and their demeanor, then ask them what they need to heal, just listen for the answer; it doesn't have to make sense to you. You are also connected to the Universe by another cord of energy from the top of your head or what is known as the crown chakra. You now open up that doorway to the Universe, the top of your head, and bring in Universal Light -- White Light also known as Unconditional Love into your body through your head. You are going to shoot the person on the stage with the Light through your solar plexus and through your hands, picture shooting them with the light like the high beams of a car. Now give them all the light that they need, keep giving them light until they fade or you feel they have had enough. Now in the hand you write with, picture a tool you can use to sever that cord between two of you. Now with love in your heart sever the cord. Notice the change in the energy now, notice the change in the person. Now you may let the person go and you can float back down to earth and present time. I know from experience that if you really are very angry or the person is gravely ill it may take more than one session and you might want to do it a few times for it to be complete. However, most issues and negative energy can be cleared with one session.

The Ho oponopono process contains four parts:

1) "I love you." This is for the memories. Use this again and again because even if you are not conscious of problems, it will help to clear those memories and allow a clear channel of inspiration to flow from Divine Intelligence.

2) "I'm sorry." This is your acknowledgment of responsibility for having created or accumulated or accepted the memories replaying and causing trouble.

3) "Please forgive me." This is a subsequent petition for having caused the trouble.

4) Request that the memories be transmuted and neutralized and released. This is the province of Divine Intelligence. This is followed by a "thank you."

How Dr. Hew Len healed a ward of mentally ill criminals with Ho'oponopono

Updated on March 27, 2011

Ho'oponopono, the Hawaiian system that heals oneself ... and the world, too

More than thirty years ago, in Hawaii, at the Hawaii State Hospital, there was a special ward, a clinic for the mentally ill criminals. People who had committed extremely serious crimes were assigned there either because they had a very deep mental disorder or because they needed to be checked to see if they were sane enough to stand trial. They had committed murder, rape, kidnapping or other such crimes. According to a nurse that worked there in those years, the place was so bleak that not even the paint could stick to the walls; everything was decaying, terrifying, repulsive. No day would pass without a patient-inmate attacking another inmate or a member of the staff.

The people working there were so frightened that they would walk close to the walls if they saw an inmate coming their way in a corridor, even though they were all shackled, all the time -but more than once this wouldn't stop an aggression. The inmates would never be brought outside to get fresh air because of their relentlessly threatening attitude. The scarcity of staff was a chronic occurrence. Nurses, wardens, employees would prefer to be on sick-leave most of the time in order not to confront such a depressive and dangerous environment.

Dr. Hew Len, the Teacher of Ho'oponopono

Dr. Hew Len

Dr. Hew Len, the Teacher of the healing system Ho'oponopono

Enters Dr. Hew Len

One day, a newly appointed clinical psychologist, a Dr. Stanley Hew Len, arrived at the ward. The nurses rolled their eyes, bracing themselves for one more guy that was going to bug them with new theories and proposals to fix the horrid situation, who would walk away as soon as things became unpleasant, around a month later, usually. However, this new doctor wouldn't do anything like that. Actually he didn't seem to be doing anything in particular, except just coming in and being always cheerful and smiling, in a very natural, relaxed way. He wasn't even particularly early in arriving every morning. From time to time he would ask for the files of the inmates.

He never tried to see them personally, though. Apparently he just sat in an office, looked at their files, and to members of the staff who showed an interest he would tell them about a weird thing called Ho'oponopono. Little by little things started to change in the hospital. One day somebody would try again to paint those walls and they actually stayed painted, making the environment more palatable. The gardens started being taken care of, some tennis courts were repaired and some prisoners that up until then would never be allowed to go outside started playing tennis with the staff. Other prisoners would be allowed not to be shackled any more, or would receive less heavy pharmacological drugs. More and more obtained permission to go outside unshackled, without causing trouble to the hospital's employees.

In the end, the atmosphere changed so much that the staff was not on sick leave any more. Actually, more people than needed wished now to work there. Prisoners started gradually to be released. Dr. Hew Len worked there close to four years. In the end, there remained only a couple of inmates that were relocated somewhere else and the clinic for the mentally insane criminals had to close.

Another self-help book?

I have to confess that I don't remember reading in my whole life one single self-help book. Titles like how to get wealthy in two simple steps or the sure road to love and riches or marketing with the stars or secure your health with this ancient secret of the Mayas never passed from my eyes to my consciousness, I simply never paid attention to them.

So when my neighbor Norma, an 81 year young lady filled with strength, enthusiasm and New York Witt, told me: "rosario, you have to read this new book by Joe Vitale", I stared at her with probably a blank expression, and I asked "who is Joe Vitale?" The extent of my ignorance was too wide for her to try to diminish it, so she replied, "never mind, you have to read this book". "It's about a doctor who emptied a ward for mentally insane criminals in a couple of years, just saying a few words to himself."

I asked, "could you repeat what you just said?" And she did. The book displayed all the signs of the self-help book: ZERO LIMITS, The Secret Hawaiian System for Wealth, Health, Peace, and More, but it was too late, I had heard about the doctor and I had developed an instant frenzy, a desperate need to learn what he had done with the crazy criminals, so I grabbed the book and rushed home and started reading, and I didn't stop until the last word.

What did Dr. Hew Len do to the patients, how did he treat them that the results were so spectacular? He didn't do anything. Not a thing to them nor with them, except looking at their files. He only tried to heal himself, applying an old, traditional community problem-solving system from Hawaii, called Ho'oponopono, adapted to individuals by his Teacher, the late Hawaiian sage Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona. And what was he doing to himself? In his own words: "I was simply healing the part of me that created them".

Actually, he used to sit in his office and look at the patients' files. While perusing them, he would feel something, a pain, an empathy. Then he started the healing on himself, taking full responsibility for what was going on with a given patient. That's how those people got better, because their doctor had the strange view that it was himself who needed the healing, not them.


Simply put, Ho'oponopono is based on the knowledge that anything that happens to you or that you perceive, the entire world where you live is your own creation and thus, it is entirely your responsibility. A hundred percent, no exceptions.

Your boss is a tyrant? It's your responsibility. Your children are not good students? It's your responsibility. There are wars and you feel bad because you are a good person, a pacifist? The war is your responsibility. You see that children around the world are hungry and malnourished if not starving? Their wont is your responsibility. No exceptions. Literally, the world is your world, it is your creation. As Dr. Hew Len points out: didn't you notice that whenever you experience a problem you are there?

It's your responsibility doesn't mean it's your fault, it means that you are responsible for healing yourself in order to heal whatever or whoever it is that appears to you as a problem.

It might sound crazy, or just plain metaphorical, that the world is your creation. But if you look carefully, you will realize that whatever you call the world and perceive as the world is your world, it is the projection of your own mind. If you go to a party you can see how in the same place, with the same light, the same people, the same food, drink, music and atmosphere, some will enjoy themselves while others will be bored, some will be overenthusiastic and some depressed, some will be talkative and others will be silent. The "out there" for every one of them seems the same, but if one were to connect their brains to machines immediately it would show how different areas of the brain would come alive, how different perceptions there are from one person to the next. So even if they apparently share it, the "out there" is not the same for them, let alone their inner world, their emotions.

How do you heal yourself with Ho'oponopono? Three steps: by recognizing that whatever comes to you is your creation, the outcome of bad memories buried in you mind; by regretting whatever errors of body, speech and mind caused those bad memories, and by requesting Divine Intelligence within yourself to release those memories, to set you free. Then, of course, you say thank You.

There are seminars where they teach you many tricks to help this process, but according to Joe Vitale, Dr. Hew Len himself uses the simplest of the formulas from Ho'oponopono. Whenever a matter arises -and they arise incessantly- adressing the Divine within you, you only have to say: I love You, I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank You.

That we can obtain big things from Ho'oponopono has already been shown: the healing of an entire ward of insane criminals seems far more difficult a task than any of our personal troubles. There are, no doubt, piles of testimonies from practitioners. Dr. Hew Len says, however: this is not fast food. The cleaning of memories requires a lot of concentration and persistence and is an unending job. But the result is what he calls Zero Limits, a state where one is free from the past, and suffused with Divine Intelligence and love.

Ho'oponopono Mantra Prayer.

  • Dear Father:

    • Here we acknowledge the Creator who gives Unconditional Love. If you believe that you are the result of an explosion or worse still that you created yourself, you are going to have a lot of trouble with this one.

    • The word Father means "Giver Of Life" and I am sure you realise that it has nothing to do with bearded patriarchs.

    • Addressing the Creator is fundamental to this process, since only the Creator can fix the mess that we (and our ancestors) have created.

  • I am sorry

    • This statement opens the door to atonement. The moment you take responsibility for any negative manifestation you experience or witness you also create an opportunity for healing.

    • The apology is not directed to the Creator. The Creator is Spirit and does not need nor care about apologies.

    • The apology is an acknowledgement that we are sorry for whatever it is that we (or our ancestors before us) have done to cause the adverse circumstance to take place.

    • There is no need to grovel, just a simple "I am sorry" will do.

  • Please forgive me

    • We are asking for forgiveness for having forgotten how much the Creator loves us.

    • We are asking for forgiveness for having shut out the Creator from our lives and missing out on all the wonderful experiences that we could have had.

    • We ask for forgiveness with the absolute certainty that it has already been granted. The Creator is Spirit and is Unconditional Love, incapable of experiencing feelings of anger, resentment and all the other ego related neurotic behaviours that afflict humans.

    • It is important to note here that Ho'oponopono practitioners never have to forgive anyone, since they realise that all wrongdoing is the result of their own wrong action or memories--past or present.

  • I love you

    • When Jesus was asked "which is the greatest commandments of them all" he surprised everyone (typical) and stated "You shall love the Lord Your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind."

    • Love is a great healing power. Sending the Creator an SMS of love will reverberate through your psyche and generate an immediate feeling of well being.

    • Once again being pure Spirit, the Creator, does not need your love, but the very act of thinking loving thoughts will tune your mind to that frequency with remarkable and immediate results.

  • And I thank you

    • As stated earlier, whatever your petition or concern, the moment you take responsibility for its occurrence and seek a way out--you are guaranteed a response.

    • Almost invariably the response will never be what you expect (or in some cases want)--but what you need to start the process of healing or reconstruction.

    • Your "thank you" is the acknowledgement that your petition has been heard and acted upon--that is all.

Self Identity through Hooponopono

By Mary Koehler

I recently received a wonderful note from a friend congratulating me on my 24th wedding anniversary and speaking about her own experience with the Self Identity through Hooponopono process, the ancient art of Hawaiian problem solving. She wrote, what has been coming up for me recently is how we CHANGE over the years from the day we take our vows - physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually. Do newlyweds have a clue? I know I didn't. She then wrote about how practical the process was for her and how grateful she was for it.

I was struck by her description of the Hooponopono process as a practical process. The Hawaiians believe that our purpose here is to let go and allow LOVE to solve our problems. We have the opportunity with each situation to take responsibility for the problem and get out of the way. Imagine going through the day with a readiness to see each problem as an opportunity, to let go, to allow the change to happen and to see where inspiration leads us.

I chuckled remembering her words, looking at my husband and where my life has led me. I had no idea. And it seems true we have no idea the change that will happen for us in ourselves, our relationships, our families, our work, and in the world. The Hawaiians believe it is not our job to know how things should unfold it is LOVEs job, Gods job, Divinity's job, the Creators job, the Goddesses job or whatever word you use for that. As they like to say we are only here to mend ourselves.

Self Identity through Hooponopono sees each problem not as an ordeal, but as an opportunity. Problems are just replayed memories of the past showing up to give us one more chance to see with the eyes of LOVE and to act from inspiration. Through a variety of cleaning tools the Hooponopono process allows each person to take 100% responsibility for the problem, to let go, and act from inspiration. One of the wonderful parts of this process is that it takes only one person to do it.

My husband and I come from a large family and we gather frequently with extended family. It has been interesting to me over the years how those gatherings have changed, since I've been using this process. Five years ago, there often seemed to be someone upset or mad about something whether it was spoken or not. I often found myself at these events wishing that others would just get along or get over it. With this process, I started taking responsibility for my thoughts, for the things that would come up at these events, and for things that I imagined might come up. And for the Hawaiians taking responsibility, meant, cleaning on each of these things.

The cleaning is all done inside. Taking responsibility is not taking the blame, or assuming I am wrong. It is a willingness to respond, to be answerable to the current memory that is running. Imbedded in each of the 60 plus cleaning tools is taking responsibility for the problem and saying, I'm sorry, please forgive me. We are saying, I'm sorry, please forgive me to the problem. Often these problems have been around for many generations. They show up to give us one more chance to release them. When we say, I'm sorry please forgive me, LOVE erases the memory, so that what is right and perfect can come in. We cannot erase problems: only LOVE can do that. Have you ever noticed how often you can ignore, hope, chastise, and get angry and irritated at a problem, but no amount of shouting, ignoring or blaming gets rid of it? Its not our job to release it: only God can do that. And if one person is willing to take responsibility for a problem, inspiration can come for all of us.

I've noticed our family gatherings have changed over the years. People have more fun, small irritations seem to come and go more easily and best of all for me, I'm less irritated and feel less like I wish everyone would just get along. I notice my siblings and extended family laughing more, people seem less stressed or worried about the details and we all seem to come to an agreement more easily. Did others change? Did I change? Who knows? And with the Hooponopono process, I don't need to figure it out. I notice that I more often see my family with the eyes of LOVE. There is nothing wrong with any of my family members...I just couldn't see them. With the Hooponopono process I have the chance to see others and myself with the eyes of God and let go of how things should be.

Unfortunately when a problem comes up, we often start thinking. We react, we think, we react, we cope, we react and think some more. Then pretty soon this small problem has built up and there is chaos. The Hawaiians see thinking as a replayed memory of the past. We cant help it. We are only where we are. The memories show up to give us one more chance to be ourselves. So with each problem we have the chance to take responsibility, let go of the thinking and begin the cleaning. We can ask the question, What is going on in me that this has shown up right now? We don't need to figure it out. In taking responsibility we have the chance to set things right for ourselves, our children, our families and those we work with.

When a problem comes up and a memory is replaying we often don't realize it. And the memory playing is not who we are. For the Hawaiians, who we are, is a very important question. We are perfect, made in the image and likeness of God, whole, complete, timeless. And the memories are not who we are. Have you ever had that experience of having someone remind you who you really are, and realize you are not how you are acting?

I have twins who are 15, and they are wonderful at reminding me of who I am. I was responding irritably to one of them not long ago and he looked up at me and said in a very kind way, Mom I don't know who is talking to me right now because it doesn't sound like you. I realized a memory was running and apologized, and thanked him. He could see that the grouchy person was not really his mom and was inspired to take responsibility and speak up.

My husband Kurt is also great at reminding me who I am. Sometimes when we are trying to make a decision on something and seem to be at cross-purposes, hell whisper in my ear very softly, Did you forget we are on the same side? All I can do is chuckle and let it go.

He reminds me that the arguing part of me is not really me. The Hawaiian process of Self Identity through Hooponopono reminds me who I am whole, complete, perfect, made in the image and likeness of love.

One of my favorite cleaning tools is the I love you. As with all the cleaning tools given in the Hooponopono process, embedded in each of the tools is taking responsibility for the problem, saying I'm sorry, please forgive me and allowing LOVE to transmute the problem. All we need to do is to have the thought I love you. I can use this tool when any problem comes up. I don't even have to have the feeling of I love you. In fact, I find it most helpful to use when someone is really bugging me. All I need to do is have the thought I love you, and Love will erase the memory, so that what is right and perfect will flow.

Sometimes, it is necessary to use the tool several times, or for several days, or even for an unlimited time, as there may be many memories piled up to be erased. We are filled with memories of hatred, death, dying and disease, and the memories may be in our family, our ancestors or us. We have the opportunity to be set free. Can you imagine how good our children could look when the memories are not passed down and they are free to live from inspiration? What if we could let go of each problem that comes up and be in the flow? What if we didn't have to think about what next, where the people we were hoping to see or meet just phoned us, and problems resolved themselves without our needing to do anything? Self Identity through Hooponopono is a simple, practical problem solving process that gives us that opportunity. We have the chance to be our Divine selves moment to moment and at Peace. to experience the Peace beyond all understanding.